My Mother’s Mental Health and It's Ripple Effect on My Life

As heart wrenching and disturbing as her story is, I do believe that times HAVE changed; we are not afraid to face the truth of mental health. I grew up with a sister whose emotional struggles manifested into Anorexia and Bulimia. Upon being told what my sister had, my mother silenced all of us, telling us never to talk about it with anyone. So of course we didn't; we sat by and watched my sister waste away and still do today. As long as my mother is here on earth, my sisters struggles are non existent. I always wondered (and still do today) as to WHO really has the mental health issue.....Point is, our parents didn't have the understanding and resources that we have today. And, if we think the mental health stigma is bad today, it's nothing compared to what is was during our childhood. I remember, like it was yesterday another disturbing story of a fellow lacrosse player. She was a year older; captain of the team; strong as a Ox. She came back to school the Fall of her junior year having lost a lot of weight; she looked amazing. But she kept loosing and by November she could barely walk up the stairs at school. We helped carry her books. No one talked about "it."  Day after Christmas she died of a heart attack; she was 16. Her family was so shamed that they moved away over night. Her death opened the eyes of the medical world and finally they began to talk about Anorexia. 
 

We, as a moms being transparent and honest, are helping to diminish the stigma. You are all "warriors" as you are accepting your child's emotional state by learning to understand it, not hide it. You are resilient to the judgement of others. You are fearless advocates and pioneers of alternative options. You are not afraid to question those who assume to know without accepting that perhaps they don't. You are Warrior Moms and your children are blessed to have you.